Last week I got together with one of my best friends from college. Although I hadn’t seen him in three years it literally took just a few seconds for us to jump into a friendly conversation and feel as if we’d only gone three days, and not three years, without seeing one another. My friend is a national sales account manager and next year he’s planning to move to Cincinnati to change career paths once again. But he’s a 40-year-old bachelor and he’s been able to easily pick up and move as his career has shifted throughout the years.
On the other end of the spectrum, I’ve been with the same company now seven years and I’ve worked in Nashville since I graduated in December 1991 with a degree in print journalism and sociology. I’ve had more exciting and visible PR type jobs in the past. At my previous job I edited the employee magazine for a national sales force. I flew on a company chartered jet with our CEO and other company executives several times and my husband and I had the opportunity to travel to San Diego and Puerto Rico as part of the company’s sales leaders conference.
Eight years ago I went to Houston to apply for a management type position in marketing communications at that same company. I didn’t get the job and I ended up leaving the company a few months later and getting hired at my current workplace. I got pregnant with my first daughter just four months after that. I now know that it was a blessing in disguise that I didn’t get the management job. Yes it would have meant more money, but it would have meant more responsibility, more stress, and more travel.
Now that I’m a mom to two little ones, I just want a flexible schedule and I am grateful I have an employer who understands that I want to work just 30 hours a week so I can have afternoons open for school activities. I have no desire to manage a group of employees or travel extensively for work or land that big corporate job that translates into working long, crazy hours, even if it would mean a higher salary.
What about you? Did your career goals change once you started a family? Did your perception of career success change?