#7 Stop Taking Care of Your Health and Your Appearance
photo by David Boyle
Please don't get angry at me for bringing this up. Hear me out. He married you. He chose you. He loves you. He knew what you looked like going in to this thing. I'm not saying you have to look like a super model, but he does wish that you would put in some effort, like you did when you were first dating.
Think about it. When you were first dating and you knew he was coming, would you meet him at the door in baggy sweats and a shapeless T-shirt, with 3rd day hair that you forgot to comb and bad breath? Of course not. So why do you do it now?
It takes the same amount of time to put on a cute top as an ugly one. How much longer does it really take in the morning to put on some moisturizer and a swipe of lip gloss at least?
Taking care of your health should be enough reason for your own sake, spouse or no. But he really wishes you would. He wants to grow old with you. He wants to enjoy the years to come, not spend them battling chronic medical conditions. Not taking care of your own health says to him that you don't care about your life together, not enough to do anything to protect it.
(Mother's of newborns, multiples, and children with colic can consider themselves excluded from the rest of this discussion. FOR NOW. It's hard enough to get in a shower most days, I know. But don't let being a slob because you have no choice and spit up in your hair turn into being a slob out of habit, 6 months from now things, and you, ought to look different.)
What it tells your husband when you don't bother to try and look good any more is that you don't really care about him any more. Of course, we wish they would interpret it as us trusting them and feeling so comfortable around them that we no longer feel we have to put on a show to be loved. And that's great if you feel that way, but it's just wishful thinking to hope he'll interpret it that way too.
Don't get dressed up and look good because you think he won't love you if you don't. Do it because you love him, and you want to show it. Let him know that you still think he's worth the effort, every day.
Carrien – She Laughs At The Days
Read the other posts in this series: #8, #9, #10.
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All good advice for me as a newlywed : ). I can't wait to see the last six things…
this was a great reminder. thanks!