Comments on: Curly Hair vs. Straight Hair. Let the battle begin.

By: Victoria P

Victoria P — Sun, 18 Jan 2009 20:48:27 +0000

I really like all this… Right now, my friend Jessie and I are trying to change up how we look… (I wont deny it I think we have a problem we change like twice every year) We're a little nervous this year tho cause were both new to this new school and I have brown crazzzzy hair that I straighten every day and she has beautiful blonde straight hair that she wants to keep curlyyy idk i think were getting silllly :p

By: Angela

Angela — Fri, 25 Apr 2008 18:55:32 +0000

I have curly hair that I straightened daily till my daughter was born. Then I grudgingly accepted the curls back into my life, and now I really like them. I think if you have the right product(s) it can make the difference. Now with 2 kids I don't have time for the blowout except on special occasions. And when I do it, I don't think it looks like me. I saw a recent photo with straight hair and thought I was my sister! My daughters hair is inbetween, and hopefully it will straighten (or curly) itself out before too much time or she will be forced to make a choice.

By: Jade

Jade — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 00:23:02 +0000

I have hair that left to dry naturally has wavy, straight, curly bits. Stays flat on top and then flies out everywhere else. I too fought my hair for years. Thank you to the last pregnancy I now have curls. I do have to work for them a couple of minutes but I can easily straighten too because it isn't too thick and course. My girls watch me some mornings and ask why I have chosen the way I am doing it that day. I explain to try something different. They have beautiful straight hair, some days we curl it to do something different.
Knowing that they are watching me I have never complained about my body in front of them. I also try to never point out the things I dislike in front of my husband. He probably doesn't notice so why make him aware of it.
I do dye my hair, again explaining that when they are older they can if they want, as it is fun to change it some times. I am more of a big change in color rather then a I don't like my natural color so need something different. I hope they understand I do it for my own entertainment not because I'm trying to be noticed or impress anyone.
I don't wear very much makeup but have had the same kind of conversation about that too.
I hope I am giving them a better idea about liking themselves as they are then I received growing up. They just turned five and six and have a..umm…interesting sense of style that I have let them develop since they had a voice.

There are advertisements on the radio for a new diet place where we live and I hear the girls playing with toys and playing out scenarios talking about needing to loose this amount of weight and what not. I talked to them the other day about how they take care of themselves, playing, exercising and eating well. How limiting the things that aren't good for us keeps us healthy. So if they continue to take care of themselves they will not have to worry about dieting. That it is not something they should be aiming to do.

I hope I am doing enough to build their esteem and confidence.

By: deb

deb — Wed, 23 Apr 2008 18:21:50 +0000

It's not just hair. I just had a conversation with my seventeen year old who wants breast implants. She's built like me, slim and small breasted. We had a short conversation about scar tissue and what happens when things go wrong with implants.

I wanted to get implants in the past but the thought of my daughters actually stopped me. How could I tell my daughters to accept their body when I didn't. So I learned to love my small, lop sided breasts and I'm happy I did.

By: mn

mn — Wed, 23 Apr 2008 16:45:12 +0000

I totally agree with the post just above (Elizabeth)…. we do base decisions on what we see our mothers do.

Casey, you don't have to start doing your hair curly. Give it a try, with the help of a stylist, and see if you like a change.

There must be a way to have variety in our appearance and not scar our daugters.

By: Melanie

Melanie — Wed, 23 Apr 2008 11:52:40 +0000

P.s: i think this was the book
http://www.amazon.com/Curly-Girl-Lorraine-Massey/dp/0761123008/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1208951160&sr=8-1
It's called Curly Girl. Even the title is cute.

By: Melanie

Melanie — Wed, 23 Apr 2008 11:50:18 +0000

One of my best friends straightened her beautiful, kinky-curly hair all through high school. We never even really knew that she had this gorgeous natural curl, until she started reading a book about how to take care of it, and one day just showed up at school with the most AWESOME head of hair i have ever seen. All it seems to require is that you learn the little tricks and tips to keep your curls happy, so they behave nicely without the frizz. I am definitely a supporter of loving your curls. I am a jealous, wavy-headed girl whose hair refuses to hold curls. So I shall live vicariously through your beautiful little girl!! Would love to see your curls though too, miss Casey.

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Wed, 23 Apr 2008 03:01:08 +0000

For a different perspective…
I'm not a mom yet (13 days!), but from the daughter's perspective…
I am one of few of my friends who does not color my hair, get my nails done regularly, etc. In all fairness, I like my hair a lot. That said, I grew up watching my mom diet all the time, get her hair colored, nails done regularly, even a little plastic surgery… I think this has a lot to do with my social anxiety. I am CONSTANTLY worried about what people think of me and how I look. I don't do a whole lot about it because I saw how much of her life and time it took her, but I do feel like people are always watching me and EVALUATING me. The evaluation is the main part. Point is: daughters watch their moms, and draw certain conclusions from what they see… even if they don't talk about it. I guess I assumed Mom did all that to impress others because they were watching… even if they aren't.

By: Tatiana

Tatiana — Wed, 23 Apr 2008 01:47:47 +0000

not a mom, but i always love weighing in on the curly hair topics.

both of my parents have very curly hair- or my dad did when he had any to speak of. needless to say, i have curly hair. thick curly hair. coarse thick curly hair. and ever since i can remember, my mom has straightened her naturally curly hair, every day.

and it does make a difference in my hair relationship.

i hated my hair growing up but i also didn't know how to take care of it. because my mom always straightened her hair, she didn't know how to take care of it either. so i brushed, dry. oh the photos of that frizzy ball i was.

but between extreme laziness, tender scalp, and going to an all girls school, i never got into straightening my hair. so when i finally did some research and found out how to work with my curl, i've been pretty happy with my hair. yes, it is a process and there is a learning curve (hardy har har) but now i can confidently say that i love my curly hair.

having curly hair def makes up a large part of my personality- it even led to my blog name (rizado means curly in spanish). i think i would be a totally different person if i had naturally or processed straight hair.

this isn't all to say that i think everyone should have curly hair. yes, i do believe that people with curly hair, once they learn how to deal with the curls, can have gorgeous hair without resorting to blow dryers and flat irons. but i also think that it is your hair, do what you want! my mom and sister both straightened their hair while my brother and i are very proud of our locks.

one thing i can say- if your daughter has curly hair, learn how to work with the curl, even if you decide that you want straight hair. i wish that either me or my mom had looked into things like 'curly girl' sooner in my life and i could have avoided a whole lot of self hate and bad hair days.

By: Barbara

Barbara — Wed, 23 Apr 2008 01:37:33 +0000

You'll get a kick out of this… When I first moved and found a new hairstylist I was in the process of growing out a perm. We were still cutting the perm out 2 year later and she finally told me, you know I think that's natural…