Does this guy make you swoon?
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What about this guy? Do your knees go weak?
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Will your heart start fluttering if you encounter this guy?
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You may think me most peculiar but…those guys above? They do nothing for me. I can appreciate their beauty. I can look at them and acknowledge that yes, they are good looking men. But no one makes my heart race or my knees go weak like my husband does.
Turns out, research backs me up on this. A study from eHarmony and UCLA researchers shows that when we are in love, we look at members of the opposite sex as less attractive. Our love for our partners enables us to resist temptation.
"Feeling love for your romantic partner appears to make everybody else less attractive, and the emotion appears to work in very specific ways by in enabling you to push thoughts of that tempting other out of your mind," said Gian Gonzaga, an eHarmony research scientist and lead author of the study, which appears in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior.
I can't look at another man and feel "turned on" or "excited" by their appearance. How could I? I don't love them and I know very little about their personalities.
- I don't know if I can count on them to get up with a sick child in the middle of the night.
- I don't know if they'll kiss me in the mornings after I've had coffee and they are an adamant coffee hater.
- I have no idea if they'll willingly offer me the last bite of a shared dessert.
- I can't know if they would be OK with me getting mascara on their favorite t-shirt as I sob my eyes out on their shoulder.
But I do know those things about my husband and much, much more. He'll always be the one I long for and the only one that can make my knees go weak with a simple wink and his dimpled smile.
Malia is the Wedded Bliss editor and co-authors the blog, live. laugh. love., with her husband, DB.
Let's take this to The League of Extraordinary Wives! Have you experienced this phenomenon in your marriage?
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Amen. I totally agree.