The grass is always greener on the other side, I have heard it said. Anyone who has been married past the honeymoon stage knows that so many of us in marriage fall for lies that are as old as the Garden of Eden.
We live in a society of “what have you done for me lately.” Wives wonder why their husband is not as romantic as other husbands or husbands wonder why their wife does not respect them like other wives respect their husbands. This line of thinking leads to believing false promises made by Satan.
One study from the University of Washington conducted this year said:
- About 20% of men and 15% of women under 35 say they have been unfaithful. That is up from about 15% and 12% respectively.
We can speculate why all day, but I suggest the reason why is as old as the Garden of Eden. Satan plays his same tricks to attack and demolish the commitment of marriage.
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Satan's Whisper |
The Allure |
False Promise |
| Did God really say? | One bite promises the | One look won't hurt anyone. |
| knowledge/ experience | ||
| that you need. | ||
| Your eyes will be opened. | All of your fantasies about | You'll have what you want |
| romance, love and sex will | without suffering, pain | |
| be fulfilled. | or hardship. | |
| You will be like God. | You'll feel powerful and | You'll share unlimited passion |
| worthwhile. | with others. | |
| You won't surely die. | You will feel more engaged | You won't have the |
| with your sensuality - | consequences that God | |
| more of a man/woman. | promised. |
Satan tells us we can have it all: knowledge, fulfillment, power and feelings of worthiness by being unfaithful. And don’t worry about those pesky little consequences, God was only joking.
We all go through periods in our marriage where things feel stale and we become out of sync, it is during these times Satan is constantly telling us the “grass is greener.” This is a lie; rekindle your relationship by revisiting what made you fall in love in the first place. Share memories of your dating relationship, remember past memories, and spend time together. Do not allow Satan in during the difficult times in your marriage.
Dr. Dobson said this about marriage, “Water the plant, place it in the sunlight, and it will grow. If you put it in a cold dark corner, however, it is likely to die.” Don’t let your marriage die, fight for it!!
Extraordinary Wives, is there a time you have had to fight for your marriage even when your feelings were failing you? Let’s talk this out at The League!
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Laurel is the author of the blog Laurel’s Reflections. Laurel and her husband of 15 years are currently raising two teenage sons and one elementary son.
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Thanks for your post.
Love is a choice! I really believe that. Of course, when I first met my husband and he was courting me I was head over heels in love. But marriage can be very challenging. After 24 years, there have been days when I didn't FEEL so in love. Let's be honest, after all. But during those times, I prayed and asked the Lord to love him through me. And guess what happens… I really do love my husband. So many women fall for the lies of Satan. I can't tell you how many have used the excuse "I fell out of love" to leave. I don't buy that. You have to work at marriage and choose to love.
Laurel, great post! We do indeed need to be very careful to not listen to the lies that Satan throws at us. Thank you for this great reminder!