My in-laws are coming to town for the weekend. My mother-in-law sent an email encouraging us to plan a day out while they stayed with the children. This is a very rare opportunity for the parents of a toddler and an infant. My husband and I excitedly talked about what we could possibly do with this free time.
Husband: "We could go to dinner and then see a movie!"
Me: "We could have lunch and then hit the art museum!"
Husband: "We could get a hotel room."
Me: "Oh yeah…we could take a nap!"
That wasn't quite what he meant.
What do you do when you and your spouse don't see things from the same perspective? How do you prioritize your free time together?
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That reminds me of Annie Hall where Woody's character says, “We almost never have sex—it’s about three times a week,” and Annie Hall is saying, “We’re always having sex—like three times a week!"
It seems that many husbands fit into that category whenever they are kid free and want to do what they did with a free afternoon as a couple BK (before kids). The problem is that AK (after kids), a wife is a mom too, usually an exhausted one, so SLEEP is often the first thought on a new mom's radar.
We're able to get out a bit more often now so we take turns planning dates. If we only have one date in the near future, we each discuss what we'd like to do and try to accommodate each other's wishes into that time if possible. If we don't have time and/or finances to do what both spouses want, we'll schedule a time when we can accommodate the wishes of the other.
Compromise.
Have sex and then take a nap.
T with Honey – sounds like a good plan to me!