Day 3: Love is not selfish – This is a tough one, because we are all innately selfish. It is part of our human nature to put self above others. However, "loving couples are bent on taking good care of the other flawed human they get to share life with…. When you relinquish your rights for the sake of your mate, you get a chance to lose yourself to the greater purpose of marriage." (p.12)
Concern for the welfare of your spouse is born out of your love for each other. Because you love your spouse, you find joy in sacrificing your selfishness for your spouse's happiness and well-being.
Ask youself these questions:
- Do I truly want what's best for my husband or wife?
- Do I want them to feel loved by me?
- Do they believe I have their best interests in mind?
- Do they see me as looking out for myself first?
The day 3 reading ends with a wonderful reminder from the Bible: "Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves." (Philippians 2:3) Imagine that your spouse wears an invisible sign around his neck that reads "Make me feel important." How are are you making your spouse feel important?
Day 3 Dare – Buy something for your spouse today that says, "I was thinking of you today." We're on a tight budget, so I think doing something instead of buying something is acceptable. I often pack my husband's lunch for him. Today, I included a note to remind him that I not only love him, but that I believe in him as well. I also sent him a text message during the day to let him know that I was thinking of him.
Because life is not meant to be a do-it-yourself project, you can read more about parenting and faith at Heather’s personal blog Not a DIY Life.
Let's discuss this at The League. How did you show your husband that he is important?
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This series is based on the book The Love Dare from the movie, Fireproof.
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Thank you for the reminder of what God's word is on selfishness.
thnx for posting this. bendecida hermana!