So you're engaged! Congratulations. You are on a lifelong journey with the man you love. Now you have a wedding to plan, and so many decisions. Cake, invitations, location, and more.
Yet many brides jump into this process, without even consulting the man of their dreams. It is very easy to decide on everything yourself, and leave your fiancé out in the cold.
In fact, many men put on a brave front with wedding planning. They hand over the reigns to their brides, and shrug off every decision, until the bride just stops asking. When their fiancé offers up soft pink boutonnieres and matching socks, the groom may regret his lack of involvement, but by then it's too late.
The best solution is to include your reluctant fiancé in your wedding plans. How do you convince him to be involved? Here are some tips.
- Start slowly. Don't bombard him with the wedding plans. Instead, sit down and let him know that he can help with any area of the wedding plans he chooses. Ask him if he has any visions of how he would like the wedding to be.
- Be open to his ideas. When he does give an opinion, don't shoot it down right away. If you do, he will not offer any more. If your ideals don't match, offer suggestions that could incorporate both of your desires, if possible.
- Work together. Take a day to have fun and explore the wedding possibilities. Go to a wedding exhibition at the mall, or browse together online. Notice what interests him, and what doesn't.
Remember that your wedding day is for both of you. You are at the beginning of your life together, and you can begin making decisions as a couple.
With this post we've started a new wedding planning series on Wedded Bliss. Kimberlee Ferrell is our wedding planning writer and a freelance writer and blogger at Beautiful Wedding Invitations.
Photo Credit: GingerLove
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Great advice! My husband and I got married in October, and we planned every bit of the wedding day ourselves, resulting in a unique day that everyone has said was "very us."
That's fantastic Jen! I have found that wedding plans go much more smoothly when both the bride and groom are in agreement. I'm glad your wedding was a success!
Kimberlee