Comments on: What Not to Say When Your Co-Worker is Pregnant

By: Jamie

Jamie — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 20:48:27 +0000

Ya’ll seriously rock with the comments. I think I had shut most of these awkward pregnancy moments from hell from my mind!

By: Sara

Sara — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 13:43:08 +0000

Sweet Lord I love this post! I’m pregnant with my first child right now. I’m just starting my second tri-mester and I’m definitely starting to show. It’s at that awkward stage now where people look at you and think is she fat or just pregnant? I gained 10 pounds within the first 4 weeks of my pregnancy and that was very hard for me. People feel it necessary to make a comment on how much weight you are supposed to gain and so on. I work with a nutritionist who even had the audacity to come to me with a weight chart of how much a pregnant woman is supposed to gain over the months. Her direct comment was: “Well, I have three charts, one for underweight women, one for average, and one for obese. We know your not underweight, so here’s the obese, and I guess I could give you normal.” What a beast! This was in the first week of me knowing that I am pregnant and I wanted to kill her. Also, another tip for the readers, don’t touch the belly!! I don’t care if you are great friends or just met the person… NO TOUCHY! Also, women, don’t share your stories of how you only started showing when you were 6 months along. That just makes the rest of us feel like heffers. Thanks for the great post!

By: Linda

Linda — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 11:07:14 +0000

My friends and co-workers all made the same mistake…. they told me

“…. but you’re 19!”

Like I didn’t know that.. like I’d been celebrating two birthdays a year for the past 18 years or something.. *lol*

How better to say you don’t approve than SUCH a comment!

By: Jamie

Jamie — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 22:44:18 +0000

Steph:

That’s a GOOD one!

By: Steph

Steph — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 22:41:17 +0000

by the time I was pregnant with my seventh child, I had heard every comment in the book! my fvorite was when people would ask if we were mormon (we’re not) or catholic (we’re christian)…finally I just started saying ” no, we just REALLY like to have sex!”

By: anne

anne — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 20:03:44 +0000

I had a male co-worker (who I didn’t know very well) ask me how my amniotic fluid levels were doing. He was dead serious and I had no idea how to respond other than “um, fine?”

By: Nikki

Nikki — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 19:23:56 +0000

Great post! I’m pregnant right now I’m surprised almost every day at the comments I’ve been getting (especially from the men at work). If I hear “wow, you look really pregnant today” I might scream. Or “I thought you were due much sooner than that”. And my personal favorite “you’re not nearly as huge as my girlfriend said you look”. I know they intend well and are just acknowledging the obvious but it is sooo inappropriate!

By: Jamie

Jamie — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 18:36:15 +0000

Your comment actually made me remember a comment made to me toward the end of my first pregnancy. I gained about 42 pounds and I am barely 5 ft. 2 so I was huge. Any way, I was waddling down the hall one day and a guy who worked in the office next to mine asked me if I was having TWINS!

Talk about a social faux pas!

By: Jennilu

Jennilu — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 18:30:52 +0000

About 3 months after the birth of my cousin’s second child she was still carrying a little (ok, a lot) of her baby weight. She was out one day with the newborn in tow and was approached by a woman wanting to look at the baby; ask if it’s a boy or girl; and coo a little bit. Then the woman looked at my cousin and asked her when she was due to deliver her next child. OMG – that lady was lucky my cousin is so nice!

By: W

Mon, 14 Apr 2008 18:12:26 +0000

My wife recently had twins. When we told people she was carring twins, a goodly number of random strangers asked if they were natural or if we had some sort of fertility treatment.

By: Jenni

Jenni — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 17:04:56 +0000

I’m always astounded at how many people ask me, “was this planned?” Depending on the person, I’ll usually answer something like, “You do realize you’re asking me if I’m intelligent enough to understand my own reproductive system, right?” That usually shuts them up.

By: Holly Schwendiman

Holly Schwendiman — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 16:54:43 +0000

A well written and direct post Jamie! The entire social world would do well to remember the individual nature of “TMI meters”.

Hugs,
Holly

By: Michele

Michele — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 16:45:24 +0000

A couple of weeks before my first was born. I literally was wearing slippers to work because I was so swollen. Diabetes made me retain a lot of water. Anyway, this coworker saw me, “OH.MY.GOD. You’re as big as a whale.” I nearly cried and smacked her. I kept my cool, but it hurt.

By: Uncommon Blonde

Uncommon Blonde — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 16:25:44 +0000

From a twenty-something that has no kiddos yet I appreciate your warning to others about sharing TMI. I too have been the victim of a mucous plug story and it did freak me out a bit!

By: Preschool Mom Catherine

Preschool Mom Catherine — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 14:40:56 +0000

I told my (young, male, annoying) boss that I had to have an amnio. His response was “not today, I hope.” Because, you know, that wouldn’t be convenient for him.

By: S.B.

S.B. — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 13:24:00 +0000

I totally agree. My husband and I were 25 when we planned to have our daughter. I hated that people asked me “Was this an accident?” It was pretty awkward – especially since anyone who knows me knows I am super organized and a total planner.

I liked your advice about keeping it simple.