Keep in mind that husbands emotionally withdraw from their wives when any of these things occur-
- He feels that he can not please you.
- His advances (not just the sexual ones) are met with rejection.
- He is treated with disrespect, or bad-mouthed to the children or your girlfriends.
- If he is constantly told he doesn't measure up.
- If he is treated with the "Men are idiots/fools." attitude.
I can hear you thinking, "That's all fine, but he treats me disrespectfully. I'm just supposed to turn around and be nice anyway?" In a word, yes. Now before you throw your shoe at the computer, give me a chance.
My Gentle Art of Ruling Your Husband philosophy revolves around the premise that our marital happiness is in our hands. When we change the way we think about our spouses it will naturally lead our behavior to change. When we change our behavior, even in small ways, our husbands will follow.
The beauty of this is that he never needs to be told of your new desire to let him keep his testicles! 
Just refrain from doing anything hurtful or saying anything negative that isn't absolutely necessary.
Soon, he will feel free (free = safe) to make himself more vulnerable and open to you. This will stop the cycle of him emotionally withdrawing.
Blessings, Allison
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I learned this one through a study at church with a book called "Love and Respect." Basically the premise was that if he doesn't give love, it's likely because you're not giving him respect and vice versa, as men would rather (typically) have respect than love. We (women) expect to receive unconditional love but often aren't willing to give unconditional respect. Often if we respect them, even if we don't think they deserve it, they become the men that DO deserve it. Such a valuable lesson…and one that best not to learn the hard way!