Keep in mind that husbands emotionally withdraw from their wives when any of these things occur-
- He feels that he can not please you.
- His advances (not just the sexual ones) are met with rejection.
- He is treated with disrespect, or bad-mouthed to the children or your girlfriends.
- If he is constantly told he doesn't measure up.
- If he is treated with the "Men are idiots/fools." attitude.
I can hear you thinking, "That's all fine, but he treats me
disrespectfully. I'm just supposed to turn around and be nice anyway?"
In a word, yes. Now before you throw your shoe at the computer, give me
a chance.
My Gentle Art of Ruling Your Husband philosophy revolves around the
premise that our marital happiness is in our hands. When we change the
way we think about our spouses it will naturally lead our behavior to
change. When we change our behavior, even in small ways, our husbands
will follow.
The beauty of this is that he never needs to be told of your new
desire to let him keep his testicles!
Just refrain from doing
anything hurtful or saying anything negative that isn't absolutely
necessary.
Soon, he will feel free (free = safe) to make himself more
vulnerable and open to you. This will stop the cycle of him emotionally
withdrawing.
Blessings, Allison
The discussion continues at The League of Extraordinary Wives!
{originally posted February 6, 2008}



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