Comments on: Divorce Takes Marriage Skills

By: Lisa

Lisa — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 17:12:55 +0000

This is when court ordered parenting plans are a Godsend. No communication or compromise necessary after things are hammered out in black & white, through the attorneys or Mediator. No room for games, or power plays, or controlling exes, or misunderstandings.

By: Krista

Krista — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 03:58:11 +0000

I think this topic will hit a sore spot with any blended family. I completely agree that in order for the two parents to work together it takes marriage skills, and that it is hard to come by two exes working that well together because they never developed those skills together in the first place!

My husband and his ex have their moments, but most of the time they get along (as long as he gives in to her every request with the boys). I don’t think many people realize how much the relationship between the two exes effects the new people in their lives.

By: SarahB

SarahB — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 02:01:01 +0000

Admittedly, I didn’t always handle my emotions very well because it’s hard when there is so much negativity surrounding your life – and often times, it’s negativity you can’t control.

Once the arguing chilled out (and it helps if both parties can cut the emotion out of the dialogue, or just keep things to the point and not get into delving into the past — which happens A LOT), a lot of the tension did too.

It might be helpful to remind your husband that the only obligation he has to his exwife is to communicate and co-parent the children with her. He doesn’t have to be her friend, he doesn’t have to rehash the past – if he can keep things on topic (kids, kids, kids) that helps tremendously.

By: heather

heather — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 12:46:33 +0000

The timing of this post is non other than divine! I’m currently experiencing this and feel like I’m going crazy too… How did you handle your own emotions in this? How did you manage to support your husband and keep your sanity?