A few months back I had a miscarriage. My husband was amazing. He knew exactly what to do to help me through. When to listen. When to make me laugh when I didn't think it was possible to smile. Right down to the kind of ice cream to buy and how I like my margaritas. He was my rock and I can't imagine going through that time without him.
It got me thinking. If he needed that from me, would I be able to do the same?
We tend to think of men as easy. Feed them, give them a romp in the bedroom, do something thoughtful for them in the morning and they are pretty much satisfied. Most of the time.
But what about when life really hurts, and they are going through something tough. Would you know what to do to help your husband through it?
It's tricky. Men tend to keep to themselves when they are dealing with something hard. So it's hard to know at times what to do to help.
I know mine likes it quiet. He also likes it when I just sit beside him and rub his back. And his favorite ice cream flavor is chocolate chip mint. But that's barely scratching the surface.
So, I have an assignment for you, should you choose to accept it.
This week make a point of asking your husband what kinds of things you do that help him to feel better when he's having a really rough day. Write it down if you need to. That way, when the day comes, and if you are married long enough it will come, you will know how to be there for him in the ways that mean the most to him.
What do you do to make your spouse happy?
photo credit: hamed saber
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Great point! I wrote him and asked him this morning!
He's always there for me… I want to make sure to be there for him.