Yes, you read that title correctly. I have this irrational fear of losing one of my identical boys. I fear losing any of my kids, but I've always been worried that I'll see the same son over and over thinking I'm seeing them both…while one is missing in action.
Even when they were newborns in the NICU, I had nightmares that the hospital would lose one and just shuffle the remaining one around trying to fool me. Nuts, right? And when I brought them home, I even worried that I would be feeding the same one twice and starving the other.
This kind of fear became much more intense when they outgrew strollers. Now that they want to walk when we go out, it's terrifying to me. I try not to dress them alike in crowded public places. But even at that, it's difficult when they are sooo identical.
Am I the only mom of identicals who worries about this stuff? Probably. Any hints for how I can chill out?
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Heh. My ever-helpful grandmother suggested to my young and hormonal mom that one of us be given a small tattoo on our forehead. Luckily for us, Mom found a small white mole on my ear- I grew up with people rubbing my head while saying "Oh hello….Myrnie!"
Good luck!!
Not very reassuring! But your kids are so adorable I would be pretty vigilant if they were mine! For moving around with my tribe it just doesn't feel right if someone isn't in sight. I just know straight away that there is a gap… I don't actually walk around counting them or doing a roll call unless we are in a very very crowded place… then I tie a balloon to each arm and they are easier to track. (Yes someone could take a balloon off their arm while I wasn't looking)… but I reassure myself in knowing that most abductions are done by family and friends and they are "relatively safe" in an unknown crowd… I'll stop already – I am not making this ANY better!!!
All I can say is Thank the good Lord that I am not the only one that has a fear of loosing my children. I thought I might be going crazy or at least still have a bit of post partum depression. My baby is now 21 mos. old. I don't have twins but I have two kids and I am terrified that someone is going to steal them or they might get lost. I deal with it the best way I know how. They are with me all the time in the stores. I never leave my eyes off them. If I do I am holding their hands or they are strapped in the stroller while my hand is touching the stroller and I am talking to them so I can hear their voice. It's easing up some. But I am still quite watchful. It's a different world out there.