Just from the comments on last week’s post, my suspicions are confirmed– there are a large number of women who feel just like I do. We have all these high hopes for our marriages and somewhere along the line our hopes or expectations change or else lessen. So how do we get it back? How do we find that spark?
The first stop on the romance train is the mirror. Yes, ladies we need to take a hard look at ourselves and try and see what our husbands see when they look at us. Is it the same woman they married, or someone YOU don’t even recognize?
I’m not necessarily speaking about weight or the few/many gray hairs that have sprouted up since you made your vows. Those things come with age and are to be expected. However, the question must be asked, have you let yourself go? No doubt you’ve heard it said before that once a woman ‘has the man’ they stop putting on the show. No more make-up, sexy clothes, special baked goods or fancy tricks in the bedroom Why bother, you got the ring now!
Come on ladies, do you really want to be that typical wife whose husband complains about what they used to do or do you want to be the wife of a man who brags about what his wife does even better 10 years later?
It's time to get your sexy back!
For my stay at home readers: Do you even bother to comb your hair before he gets home from work? It may sound a bit 1950’s and you will find that some of my views are a bit pre-feminist era. Nonetheless, just taking the time to wash your face and put on a fresh shirt before your husband comes home says that you still care about what he thinks. No one finds pieces of dried oatmeal or smears of chocolate pudding across your bottom very attractive.
Maybe you think he needs to know just how hard you work and showing him you didn’t even have time for a shower will make him understand how rough the days can be. I get it and I’ve been there but, let’s just put it this way, if he came home everyday carrying his work issues on his shirt or smeared across his behind you would get pretty annoyed at some point.
He doesn’t have to wear his stress for you to know he worked hard that day. It really does bring down the allure of coming home to his sanctuary. Especially, if all you wanted to do was relax, eat dinner then curl up on the couch with the one you love. Just because you don’t look a mess doesn’t mean you will be taken for granted. Try it! Put on your cute jeans and fitted shirt and he doesn’t have to know that you’ve had the hot rollers in most of the day, take them out when you hear the garage door open!
For the ladies who work just as many hours outside of the home as her significant other you're a little more of a challenge because you may not have time to get home relax and still have time to make your husband feel the same way. How about bringing a change of clothes for the both of you and meeting up for a casual dinner or walk? Sometimes just getting out of those constricting work clothes, whether it be a McDonalds uniform or a 3-piece suit, can make all the difference. Spend the first 20 minutes just talking about what was good about your day and how you really want to spend the rest of the evening. Save the heavy stuff until both of you have relaxed at least a little.
Try it for a month and I’ll bet you’ll see a change.
Have you already gone this route, did it work for you?
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