As little as four years ago I was asked on a regular basis whether or not I was going to have more kids. Today I am constantly asked if I'm done.
What changed?
I had triplets. And now that I have five kids everyone assumes that I must be finished having children.
But the truth is, right now I don't know the answer myself.
When my husband and I got married, I wanted six kids. Sounded like a good number to me – I knew I wanted a large family. But then we had trouble getting pregnant, and I figured if I had three kids I would be beyond thrilled.
When my first child was born, a singleton, I was so happy to have her. After almost four years of struggle I was a mom. And of course I wanted more so we tried again and had another singleton, my only son.
I had two kids and I could leave the stigma of infertility behind. But I knew I wanted a third and so we tried for just one more.
And got three more.
And the whole time I was pregnant I was convinced I was done. I wanted three, I was getting five, I should be happy and move on.
So what's wrong with me?
I should be done but yet a small part of me wants more. Of course, the rational side of my brain tells me I can't afford more, my body can't take more and I wonder if I'd get multiples again.
Yet another part of me would love to have more kids. I have five, what's another one or two right? And a small, secret part of me would love to have multiples again.
Am I crazy? Can you have more after multiples? I mean, of course you CAN but should you? How do you know when you're done? And what do you say when someone says to you "you're done right?" Because I don't know the answer for myself or anyone else.
If only those babies weren't so darn cute…
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I think it's beautiful that you want to have more children! I want to have 5 kids (my husband is not so keen on that many though!), so we'll see what happens!
I am feeling you on this one. We had twin girls through IVF last year and I remember feeling ready for more soon after they were born…and it's a good thing because 13 months later we were blessed with another little baby girl (all natural). She is almost 3 months now (and our twins are 16 months) and I'm already starting to feel that we aren't done. I believe that if you can care for them that you should have as many as God sends…but that's just me. Your babies are beautiful!