http://blissfullydomestic.com/family-bliss/marriage-family-bliss/when-to-start-your-own-family-traditions/56267/ Fri, 25 May 2012 12:01:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 http://blissfullydomestic.com/family-bliss/marriage-family-bliss/when-to-start-your-own-family-traditions/56267/#comment-41121 Camille Tue, 22 Sep 2009 16:18:09 +0000 http://blissfullydomestic.com/?p=56267#comment-41121 I have been married long, long time (32 yrs) and traditions ebb and flow as the times change. As a new bride, I just went along with the traditions of the our families to keep the peace. One year we attended 3 Thanksgiving dinners to keep everyone happy. We were both sick the next day from all the food and festivities but figured if all the moms were happy we were good. Then we got a call from my mom who was not happy we skipped out for desert. Then his mom because we missed appetizers with her side. Then his step mom because we came so late we did not get to see everyone who was there earlier in the day. And they all felt we were in the wrong, just could not understand we could not be in more than one place at a time. After that year, we alternated from his family to my family. Once kids came along, we stayed home. The family could come to us or not, I had babies to worry about, not grown people. And they did come, and for the most part, they got along fine. Other traditions come along with children. You do something a certain way more than once, and kids remember and before you know it, it's a tradition. Children need that certainty that something will happen a certain way. It is reassuring to them. Other times you and hubby will just find a way of doing something and it becomes a tradition because that is what you do all the time. We have a friday night happy hour drink after work on our patio year round. We have ice cream for lunch once each vacation. We go to all our kid's college sports games and scream until we have no voice. We say grace before each dinner. There is more but as stated above, they change as life goes on. You will find your own traditions, just look for them, speak with hubby and before you know it, you have a tradition. Don't just look for holiday rituals, find the specialness of every day. I have been married long, long time (32 yrs) and traditions ebb and flow as the times change. As a new bride, I just went along with the traditions of the our families to keep the peace. One year we attended 3 Thanksgiving dinners to keep everyone happy. We were both sick the next day from all the food and festivities but figured if all the moms were happy we were good. Then we got a call from my mom who was not happy we skipped out for desert. Then his mom because we missed appetizers with her side. Then his step mom because we came so late we did not get to see everyone who was there earlier in the day. And they all felt we were in the wrong, just could not understand we could not be in more than one place at a time. After that year, we alternated from his family to my family. Once kids came along, we stayed home. The family could come to us or not, I had babies to worry about, not grown people. And they did come, and for the most part, they got along fine.
Other traditions come along with children. You do something a certain way more than once, and kids remember and before you know it, it’s a tradition. Children need that certainty that something will happen a certain way. It is reassuring to them.
Other times you and hubby will just find a way of doing something and it becomes a tradition because that is what you do all the time. We have a friday night happy hour drink after work on our patio year round. We have ice cream for lunch once each vacation. We go to all our kid’s college sports games and scream until we have no voice. We say grace before each dinner. There is more but as stated above, they change as life goes on. You will find your own traditions, just look for them, speak with hubby and before you know it, you have a tradition. Don’t just look for holiday rituals, find the specialness of every day.

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