With our wallets feeling the pinch of the faltering economy, spending a big wad of cash for Valentine’s Day might not be this year’s best move. Instead, celebrate things you love about one another. Keep your money in the bank.

1. Create a tradition. Our friends Brent and Sonia write each other a poem every year for Valentine’s Day.  If you’re not a poetry fan, write a letter or short story.  Choose what works for you, and stick with it, to reap both short-term and long-term rewards.  Imagine how you’ll feel each year when you read one another’s words of love.  Now jump forward ten years.  Imagine perusing the scrapbook of love letters you’ve accumulated over time.  Priceless.

2. Eat a late lunch. No, no, this isn’t the romantic part.  It’s so you can eat dinner late, really late!  Spend a little extra at the grocery store & prepare to make a fantastic dinner that’s not your usual fare.  Tuck the kids into bed and cook dinner together; perhaps enjoy a glass of wine while you do.  Play music, light candles, talk about life.  Limit your discussions:  no money-matters or other hot topics.  You know what they are!

3. Get your blood pumping.  No, not that way.  But exercise is good for the soul and the libido, especially when you keep it fun.  If it’s snowy, go sledding, with or without kids.  Live down south?  Grab a jacket and walk along the beach or a country road.  Take a hike, go for a swim, or grab your ice skates.  It doesn’t matter what you do:  the idea is to have a few laughs and engage your bodies in the fun.

Be creative. We don’t really need roses or caviar; we just need to say I love you.

Kirsetin is an author and speaker who spends more time on the computer than in the kitchen.  She blogs about raising boys, living life, and having fun over at The Hip Mom’s Guide.  When she’s not working, she enjoys yoga, playing darts with her boys, and visiting warm places with palm trees.

photo credits: ceanandjen, neona, and petit hiboux