A few years ago, I wrote a post on my personal blog that I thought was funny. The post referred to something my husband does that drives me crazy. However, when he saw it, he did NOT think it was funny. In fact, he was terribly embarrassed by it. I immediately deleted the post but the his hurt feelings weren’t as easily erased.

Sometimes, one person’s funny is another person’s embarrassment. We’ve mentioned several times on Wedded Bliss about not speaking unflatteringly about your husband to others. And it is worth repeating and repeating. It’s not that we’re perfect little wifeys who sit adoringly at our husband’s feet thinking they can do no wrong. We’ve experienced the consequences of such behavior and know how much it hurts both parties.

There may be things that the two of you can joke about but I’d venture to guess they involve subjects that would best be kept within your relationship. For example, you may be able to tease your husband about his receding hairline. It may not bother him one bit. But, if you say it in front of someone else, they may not understand the dynamic between the two of you and completely misinterpret your humor or intentions.

It all goes back to “Do unto others…” I heartily agree that we should all keep our humors about us and not get our knickers in knot over every little thing. Even if my husband had found that post to be funny, it still would have set a bad example for how spouses should treat each other. Now, when I’m tempted to say something “snarky” or possibly unkind about him, I stop and think not only how I’d feel if he said it about me but also how others will hear it.

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