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My Hubby and I recently had a “date night“. Before we became parents, we had date nights regularly. Our dates were simple, usually a home-cooked dinner with candles followed by a movie on the couch.
Since our little one arrived (16 months ago – gulp), we have had only a few evenings out without her. Our two main excuses are that we absolutely love doing things as a family, and my husband is a full-time graduate student in addition to working full-time.
But, we simply have not made date nights a priority.
The experts suggest that spouses continue to date each other, or have regular time together as a couple, throughout their marriage. Dr. James Dobson of Focus on the Family suggests that couples have a weekly date night. I think that weekly date nights are a bit unrealistic for today’s busy family. But that does not mean that we have to abandon date night altogether. Our goal is to have a monthly date.
A common excuse for couples that avoid scheduling a date night is the lack of ideas. What to do on a night out with your love? My Hubby and I like to keep things simple. We went out for dinner then went to Sonic for ice cream. We wanted to have plenty of time to talk and catch up with each other.
When you and your spouse are busy with jobs, church, family, and other activities, your conversations are usually about those things. Remember when you were first dating and could talk for hours? Hubby and I had a record five-hour long phone conversation! We never ran out of things to talk about!
But if you do find yourself in a conversation rut, here are some ideas are:
- Talk about your childhood.
- Talk about what you wanted to be when you grew up.
- Talk about family memories.
- You can also google “conversation starters“, for some good ideas and interesting suggestions.
When you are on a date with your spouse, that time is about the two of you. Get to know each other again. Your time together does not have to be overly romantic (but it can be!). The main thing is to be reminded why you fell in love with your spouse in the first place.
Extraordinary Wives, what are some of your favorite date night ideas? Let’s take it to The League and discuss!!
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My hubby and I make it a point to have the kids in bed by 8pm so that we can have a little time alone and a little time together. Cuddling up on the couch watching TV together is sometimes all we need.
I love dating my husband. When our daughter was first born, she was all we talked about. Mostly because we had parent confidence issues. Once we got our “parenting legs”, we returned to talking about everything and nothing like we did when we were dating. I just love being with him!
I read an article once where the author, a married woman and mother, contended that spouses couldn’t “date” each other anymore because of the tendency to only talk about the children and household matters. I think she just needed to redefine the term “date”. You’re going to end up talking about those things because they are now central to your life.
But sometimes it’s fun to mix it up and talk about other stuff, too. My husband and I have used the “talk about childhood & family memories” topics many times. I love hearing about him & his family from a time when I didn’t know them.
We’re going on a date this weekend! Whoo Hoo!
I totally agree.