I happened to see his face as he noticed her walking down the aisle, looking for a seat. His eyes lit up and a goofy little grin spread across his face. His was delighted to see her. Later, I told her about it, what I had witnessed. She blushed a little and attributed it to something else but I disagreed, it was a look of love.

Often times we miss these small moments or we may take them for granted after many years together. Saying, “I love you” becomes automatic and dates with each other become another entry on your calendar.

When was the last time you truly delighted in each other?

What about instead of the quick, rote, “I love you”, you told your husband, “I like you.”, “I like being with you.”, “I like sharing my life with you.”, “I light up when you enter the room.”, “I feel warm and tingly inside when I think about you.” You know you love him and he knows you love him. However, we don’t always affirm each other with friendship and genuine expressions of fondness. Lately my husband has been in the habit of telling me that I’m his most favorite person in the whole world. I really enjoy hearing that and I try to find ways to echo the sentiment back to him.

Remember how it felt when one or the other of you asked the other one out on a date back in those heady days of  ‘getting to know you’? What if the next time the opportunity arises for you to do something together you looked at him and said, “Would do me the honor of accompanying me?” Even if it’s just a movie you want to see or a new restaurant you want to try. Show him that he is the one with whom you want to share the experience.

Earlier that same morning, my husband and I had found ourselves in a secluded stairwell. I leaned in, kissed him and whispered something, well, for his ears only. It was simple, unexpected and most delightful. The rest of day there was an energy between us, kind of like those long past days of dating, simply because we took a moment to delight in each other.