By Michelle Smiles | Leave A Comment
My husband and I have an agreement. He can completely ignore Valentine’s Day as long as he keeps up his random acts of romance through out the year.
Neither of us were ever big fans of Valentine’s Day. He doesn’t understand why he has to pay $70 for a dozen roses on 2/14 when on the 14th of any other month he can find them for 1/2 that price. Nor does he get why he should make a trip to Hallmark among the other panicked husbands and boyfriends to pick out a sappy card when he would prefer to write me his own sweet words when inspiration strikes. He also scoffs at all of the diamond chip heart necklaces that line the cases of the big box jewelry stores this time of year. I’m okay with that. I don’t particularly want to spend 45 minutes waiting for a table in an overcrowded restaurant just because it is Valentine’s Day. Nor do I want to feel obligated to buy him silky boxers with lipstick kisses all over them when I know he will hate wearing them.
I will gladly trade in over priced flowers, a sparkly card, and a long wait for dinner for the spontaneous actions of love and romance he shows me throughout the year. On random days through out the year, he brings home a pretty bouquet for me just because. I receive heart felt love poems via email when he is missing me at work. He’ll send me links to songs that make him think of me. He remembers the anniversary of our first date (I often don’t) and makes slide shows of our life together up to that point. He comes home and sees a frazzled wife and whisks the family off to dinner or heads out to pick up take-out. He thanks me for being a wonderful wife and good mother. The surprise and thoughtful nature of those actions mean so much more.
But if you want to share those Godiva chocolates you got, I’ll take a caramel.
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45 minute dinner wait is nothing these days! Our first Valentine’s as a married couple, we waited 3 hours! That prompted our tradition of having lunch together on Valentine’s Day instead of going out to dinner. And when the kidlets came along, we made Valentine’s Day a family affair. We kept our lunch tradition and I made an extra special, kid-friendly, dinner and a heart shaped strawberry cake for dessert.
Hubby and I also don’t celebrate on V-Day itself. The headaches over schedules and whatnot get in the way of enjoying ourselves. Sometimes we’ve done really low key stuff like DVD & popcorn, but otherwise we have date nights and we celebrate our anniversary + half-anniversary. So that’s two romantic dinners a year anyway.
I love your last line, “The surprise and thoughtful nature of those actions mean so much more.” I couldn’t agree more! (I still wouldn’t mind the candy)
I totally agree with you! I love when my hubby comes home with flowers for no reason. The random notes left here and there. Awesome! I’ll take that any day.