If you consider the element of surprise strictly the stuff of fiction novels and blockbuster movies, think again.  The element of surprise isn’t just for John Grisham and Tom Cruise.  It can brighten up a regular old marriage, too.  Here are 5 ways to keep married life interesting:

1. Bite your tongue. Choose one thing you regularly complain about and refuse to complain about it for a solid week.  This is a tough one ladies.  I’m terrible at it!  If nothing else, it will help you recognize how often you voice this particular opinion.
2. Plan a Day of Love Notes.  It seems cheesy, but it works.  Tuck a note into his briefcase, his gym bag, his car and his lunch to remind him of the things you love about him.  Come on, you can do it.  It’ll make his day.
3. Check the Pet Peeve.  You know how there’s that one thing you do that constantly irks him? This week, make a conscious effort put the hair dyer away or your shoes back into your closet.  A thoughtful gesture is a lovely surprise.
4. Choose a Chore. If you divvy up the chores, do one of his for a change.  Mow the lawn, take out the trash, clear the table…whatever it is that he usually does, take it on for a day.  Serving with kindness is a beautiful thing.
5. Make the first move.  You know where this one is headed.  If your husband is typically the initiator for all things sexy and marital, take the lead for a night.  Talk about surprise!

It’s the change-the diversion from your usual daily fare-that makes these ideas work.  These are just 5 easy suggestions, but there are countless others.  Take a look at your marriage and imagine new ways the element of surprise can give it a boost.

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