By Alli Worthington | Leave A Comment
Stop comparing husbands, because you never know what lies behind closed doors!
Familiarity breeds contempt. We’ve all heard it said. What if I said Familiarity breeds Indifference. We know our husbands like the back of our hands. We know the not so good and the even worse. But what if we only see others when they are on their ‘best’ behavior?
When you are out with another couple, do not be sucked into thinking how much nicer Betty-Lou’s hubby is compared to yours. Husbands are better behaved in front of guests. Aren’t we all? Do you tell all your friends at the Junior League every thing Hubster does wrong? Neither do they! So stop comparing your big lug with other women’s husbands.
For all you know, Mr. Smith down the street may have a Napoleon Complex and flip out if the towels aren’t straight. What about Cute-Dad in the carpool lane? For all you know, the Mrs. may have to dress up in a gorilla costume and dance an Irish jig for him.
Yes, your Big-Lug leaves his dirty boxers all over the floor, he leaves chest hair on the bar of soap (gag), and teaches your babies to burp the national anthem, but in the grand scheme of things- it’s not that bad. Don’t let yourself get sucked into the trap of rumination over all the things that are negative. Learn to focus in on what you love about him. Remember what you focus on will gain more and more strength in your life.
Love, Allison
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ABOUT Alli Worthington
Alli is the Founder of Blissfully Domestic, the Co-Founder of the BlissDom Conference and BlissDom C{read more}
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Thanks for an awesome site…I will certainly be adding you to my favorites. I have learned too much the hard way in marriage and this is going to help so many people out!
I gave you a thumbs up!
I love your advice. So real, so much common sense, and I think sometimes we just make it “too hard.” You know?
Love ya! Congrats on the big launch!
Amen sister,
people should ask their husband’s takes on their bff’s husbands or boyfriends. my husband thinks one of my friends husbands is basically a loser, even though he has a well-to-do job. because he can’t talk cars and isn’t much of a conversationalist…
and here i was thinking my girlfriend had it all because he;s on the money track, but forget it, i have much more to be happy about because my husband can talk cars, and talk to most people about most anything, oh and he’s SO much hotter. so there, why be jealous!?! You’ve got it all in the palms of your hands, sisters!
Well said! I have the man God created for me. How could I be happier with someone else?
Ha. I hear my friends whine about their husbands and I always come home and tell mine what a catch he is. And at 2am when his snores are keeping the baby awake I try so very hard to remember that feeling.
Jessica, I remember years ago reading in Dear Abby about some one complaining that her hubby snored, and other folks replied that the daddy in their house always sounded like a chainsaw ripping down a forest each nite, but then he died. . . and then no one could sleep cuz the house was too quiet, and what would they give to hear the comforting sounds of him snoring again. Well, this makes me cry of course, but I guess it’s all perspective. So I can handle the snoring, but there are other issues that make me crazy. . . .
I just recently found you and I love what I’ve read so far. I’m a newly wed so your advice will surely come in handy. Thanks for a great site.