By Mishelle Lane | Leave A Comment
Michael and I were married on September 30, 1995. This year we will have been married 14 years and while it seems like an eternity, it also seems like it was just yesterday. Like everything, hindsight is 20/20, because if I had it to do all over again there is so much that I would like to change.
We had a fairly large wedding. That’s the first thing I would want to change. Half the people that were invited probably shouldn’t have been. Not because I don’t like them, that’s mean, but because I don’t even remember them. I would have much rather been surrounded by an intimate group of people.
Along with the large wedding came the large wedding party. That’s another thing I’d change. I wish I would have picked my three closest girlfriends/relatives to stand up with me. The ones who are still in my life, actually, and I’m not just talking ‘in my life on Facebook’ either.
I’d also do a post-wedding photo shoot. These are common now-a-days and I would love to have some pictures of us in our wedding clothes, just more relaxed. Actually, I wish I would have done more research and looked into a different photographer. I had a wedding photographer friend do it, but I would have rather had someone that was more artsy instead of methodical. Wedding photography should be soulful.
There’s really so much; here are some other random things I’d change:
- Less of a bouquet for myself and the bridesmaids. Simple, simple, simple!
- Disposable cameras on each table so that the guests could capture candid wedding moments.
- A less traditional wedding cake; you know, one without stairs and a fountain.
- I wouldn’t let my mother insist on the hair flowers for the bridesmaids. That was a FAIL. I’d also let my bridesmaids do their own hair and get their own fabulous shoes.
- Karaoke!! Every wedding needs karaoke or at least my wedding did!
- I’d delay leaving for our honeymoon by a day or two. We were rushed and rushing should not be a part of a wedding.
Oh, the list could go on!
The one thing that wouldn’t change is the way that I feel about the vows I took and the man I took them with. And despite wanting to change some things, our wedding day is full of awesome memories. That’s something that can’t be changed.
How about you? What are some things you would change about your wedding day?
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I would have hired a photographer, instead of relying solely on guests to take the pictures. We had a small, very inexpensive wedding.
I was given some good advice early on in wedding planning: Pick 5 things that are most important to you (as a couple) and put your budget towards those things. If I could go back, the only thing I would change is that I would have let someone else make the boquets instead of doing it ourselves.
I would have paid more money for a photographer and I would have splurged a bit more on a honeymoon. We took the inexpensive route and went to Yellowstone. It was fun, but my hubby lived in Hawaii for 2 years, and I’ve never been. 15 years later I still haven’t been there. Should have pushed for it then…
You know there is not much that I would have changed about our wedding. I think I am the only person who says that. We had 150 guests which is large but they were 150 important people. I had three bridesmaids which I think is the perfect number. Of those three my mom was my matron of honor. That was the best idea I ever had. My important things were first and foremost the ceremony. It was performed by our childhood pastors and had lots of important passages involved. After that the reception was a party. I wanted a great band that could play anything. Good food and lots of it and lots of flowers. I wouldn’t change a thing eleven , almost twelve years later. Not even the husband.
I would love to do it over if only for the gifts!!! I would definitely make a better gift list… I would have put towels and dishes on the list and well real things… I was forgetting that our parents have friends and they actually want to spend money. I was thinking of all the poor students we were friends with and put things like an egg flip on our list – what was I thinking!!! Yup I would love to do it over, my very best day ever… great idea for a post!
How true that is! We had a family emergency 10 days before my wedding, and over 500 people showed up at my wedding. I definitely felt loved, but I did not get to speak to 1/4 of the people there. That makes me sad…
I was all about simplicity, though… the dress, the flowers, the wedding party (we each had four close friends attend us). It was a laid back ceremony, and six-and-a-half years later, I still receive compliments on how beautiful it was.
My biggest do-over would be my photographer. She was a family friend, and I felt obligated to use her. She got a new job shortly after our ceremony and did not get my wedding pictures to me until TWO YEARS LATER! Needless to say, she and I do not speak very much (she was a family friend on my inlaws’ side), and I had to flat-out order her to give me my pictures. She did not charge us a dime.
Our wedding video was done by a (professional) friend, and he did an amazing job. So, you just never know, but my advice is to ALWAYS get a pro for both your video and your pictures!
Definately less people(we had 187~~too many), different photographer, and we for sure would delay the honeymoon by a couple days. We had relatives from out of town that we should have stayed and visited with.
OH my!! We share the same wedding anniversary day!! My wedding day actually would have been Oct. 7th(a week later) but close friends of mine beat me to the punch reserving the church for that day. So hubby and I moved our date up a week, something I probably would have changed back and just found another venue.
Another thing I would have changed is being more decisive as to what I wanted even if I stepped on some toes(cause you can’t make everyone happy!). I wanted a simple wedding but not a lot of cost involved and so my family ended up doing things when they should have been enjoying the day with me.