I hear it all time and see it on profiles and bios, “my husband is my very best friend”. In fact, that’s how it is in my life as well. My husband is my best friend.

I’ve never really had a best girlfriend. I have some good, close girlfriends but not a buddy that I hang out with regularly or talk to on the phone everyday kind of best friend. There’s not one friend in particular that I turn to when I need to talk to someone, my husband is that person.

But what happens when conflict arises between you and your husband and you really need to talk to someone, just not him? Who do you turn to? Do you have a best girlfriend? Can you talk to your mom or sister or aunt? Do you have a counselor or therapist that can take your calls?

Recently there was some tension between my husband and I. Not the usual day to day stuff but some heavy, serious conflict that had us at an impasse. I was distraught. I needed to talk to someone. Some names danced around in my head, I could call her or maybe her and even her but no one really stood out to me. I really wanted to talk to him yet at that moment in time, I just couldn’t.

In the end, it all worked out. We were able to talk and express our feelings and move forward. It really was good to talk to my best friend. And while I’m glad that he’s my best friend, I do see how it would be beneficial to have someone to turn to in those tense time. Someone who can reassure me that it will all work out, remind me that he loves me and give me a little push back in the right direction.

Is your husband your best friend? Do you rely only on him for emotional support or do you have someone else you can turn to when needed? Let’s take this to The League!

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