This is the second in a two-part series on coming to terms with your child’s special needs.

Having a child with a hearing disability brought out all kinds of responses from people around us; and I had to deal with all those who “felt bad” for us.

Was I sad? Sure. All I know is a hearing world, so of course I would be prejudice and think that my world was better. What I have learned from having two children with hearing loss is that, to them, it’s not a bad thing. They don’t feel bad that they can’t hear the same as me. Actually, I often catch my son holding his hearing ear to drown out the noise around him.

I have one child with a unilateral loss and one with who is completely deaf in one ear and moderately in the other. She uses a hearing aid, and does quite well.  I wanted my children to hear; but found that no matter what, my children were going to be fine. As long as I did everything I could to help each of them, I would find where they needed and wanted help and where they excelled.

My point is that no child is perfect, and having a child with special needs is not the end of the world. The best thing you can do is talk to other mothers who have had or are having the same feelings or problems as you.