How often have you found yourself, heightened in frustration, speaking harsh to your child? Provoked, you’d had enough and you raised your voice in anger. What was her response? She might have ignored you, yelled or acted out, but she probably didn’t nicely comply or pay much attention.

In contrast, when feeling that same frustration have you ever chosen to speak the same words gently, even quietly to your child? What was the response then? Maybe not perfect compliance but I’m sure you had their attention.

Gentleness captures attention. It does not imply giving up or a lack of backbone in the same way that yelling doesn’t imply authority.  There is a quiet strength and a respect that accompanies a gentle attitude. Proverbs 15:1 says “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

Three ways to practice gentleness:

• Gentle Words – The next time you feel angered or provoked wait just a moment to respond. Gain control of your voice and speak in quiet, calm tones.

• Gentle Manner – When you’re about to slam the cupboard door in frustration take a moment. Relax your muscles and take a breath. Demonstrate a gentle manner, your children are watching.

• Gentle Touch – When dragging your child to the time out chair don’t let your touch be angry. Discipline is done out of love, allow that to show. Pat your child’s back gently or stroke their cheek as a moment of affirmation in the midst of discipline.

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Nicki is a mom and wife sharing thoughts on money and time management for your family at Domestic Cents.