I dress my girls alike. Feed them alike and play with them alike. For the most part.

This has worked fine till now. As babies they were certainly too young to notice. As small toddlers they couldn’t care less. But now they seem to want different things and they’re only two years old!

Julianna wants to wear a dress. Every day. So she can “spin around” and tell me how pretty she is. But the other two don’t want to wear dresses. One of them wants polka-dots.

And breakfast is another story. I make them all the same thing. If they’re having waffles then they’re having waffles. For the most part no one complained.

But now one of them asks for Pop-Tarts and one of them asks for cereal. Soon I’m running around making three different breakfasts.

It can make any mother crazy!

But what’s worse is when one sees what the other has and wants that instead. Rachel asks for cereal but if she sees Alyssa’s Pop-Tart she would much prefer that.

So, how do you know when to draw the line of individuality versus everyone being the same? I want them to have the same chances as my other two children. Children who got to choose what they wear and choose what they eat (at least sometimes). As multiples they are often grouped together but yet they are not all the same.

Unfortunately, the line isn’t clear. On the one hand, I want them to be individuals and to give them a chance to pick things for themselves. On the other hand, I don’t want to have two upset girls because the third gets to wear butterflies and the other two don’t!

How do you know what to do? Do you make them stay the same? Or risk the fights if they’re different? I’d love to know what you do since my multiples are still so young!