If you’re not then you should be.  Not necessarily all the time, but a little selfishness for a girl never hurts! Since I became a mother, I have struggled to take time for myself.  I don’t know if it was due to personal guilt or a sense of unworthiness. But recently, I’ve begun to  force myself to be a bit more selfish so I could take time for ME.

And what a difference it is making.  I’m a more patient mother and  I’ m beginning to enjoy myself without all the guilt. Plus, I’m more confident. I know I’m deserving of this time which only makes me a better mother because I’m taking care of myself. 

Here are a few things I enjoy doing when I’m taking time for me:  

• Read a good book
• Soak in a warm bath
• Enjoy a glass of wine
• Browse the bookstore
• Shop!  
• Watch a great chick flick!
• Indulge in a bowl of my favorite ice cream or a sweet treat
• Take a walk alone and enjoy the quiet
• Spend time with a good friend

Being selfish doesn’t have to be a bad thing.  We know it’s not doable all the time, but allowing yourself to be selfish, every once in a while, can make you a better mother, a better wife, a better listener, and a confident care giver.   Remember give yourself permission to focus on you;  you’ll be amazed at how much of a difference it makes.

Christina is new to Blissfully You.  She blogs about her adventures and misadventures in motherhood at MamaNeena.